Accidents Happen. Here Is How To Handle Them
A Hard Truth: Accidents Happen
Living with an ostomy means adjusting to a new normal and learning new routines. Even when we follow all the steps we have been taught, accidents can still happen. Most people are afraid to talk about them, which only makes the experience feel more isolating and overwhelming. I want to change that by sharing one of the most uncomfortable moments I experienced in my first year and how it ended up becoming a story that helped others.
I also share this story on Hollister’s YouTube channel. If you want to watch me tell it, you can see it here:
My Most Embarrassing Ostomy Accident
It happened within my first year of having my ostomy. I had a business lunch in Boston with someone I had only met online. I wanted to show up feeling confident, calm, and put together, so I irrigated that morning and wore a cap over my stoma. Everything seemed normal as I drove into the city and sat down for lunch.
Halfway through our meal, my stomach rumbled. I brushed it off at first, assuming everything had settled from the irrigation. But then I smelled stool. My heart dropped as I tried to focus on our conversation and act like everything was fine.
When we stood up to leave, she asked to take a selfie together. We smiled for the photo, and as soon as it flashed, I looked down and saw stool on my foot. My dress was stained. It was one of those moments when your mind tries to process what is happening and your body moves on instinct.
I told her I needed to run to the restroom and hurried downstairs. When I reached the stall, I realized I had forgotten my scissors. I had to improvise. I used my teeth to cut the wafer so I could replace it. Then I cleaned my dress, my legs, and my shoes as best as I could.
By the time I came back upstairs, she had already paid the bill and left to return to work. I walked out of that restaurant feeling stunned and embarrassed. When I reached my car, I called my best friend and told her exactly what happened. She listened and then encouraged me to share the story one day so others could learn from it and feel less alone.
That day taught me more than I expected.
What That Day Taught Me
I learned that confidence is not built from everything going smoothly. It is built from the moments you work through when things do not go as planned. Preparation is important, but giving yourself grace is equally important. Most of all, I learned that accidents do not diminish your strength or your dignity. They are simply part of this journey, and they happen to all of us.
Sharing this story publicly was not easy, but it helped me realize that when we open up about the harder moments, we create a level of connection that helps others feel safe and supported.
Preparing Yourself For Unexpected Moments
While accidents cannot always be prevented, being prepared can make all the difference. Keeping a small kit with you makes everything easier. I recommend carrying a flange, a fresh bag, wipes, disposal bags, and scissors. If you irrigate, remember that even on the most normal days, your body may surprise you. Knowing where restrooms are when you go out can help you feel calmer and more in control.
Most importantly, be gentle with yourself. Living with an ostomy is a journey, and your body is doing its best. When something unexpected happens, it does not mean you failed. It means you are human.
A Final Reminder
If you have had an accident, you are not alone. If you experience one in the future, you will be able to handle it with strength and grace. Every moment teaches you something. Every experience makes you more capable. And every challenge adds to the confidence you are building day by day.
You are doing an incredible job, even on the messy days.
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Love,
LA
